Dance boredom- a common experience?
Leaders and the ‘more moves’ fallacy
Boredom is a normal feeling, but there are ways to combat it! From time to time leaders tell me they are bored and they need more moves. What they also tend to communicate is, even after they get more moves, they are still bored!
Another common occurrence is when leaders feel they need fancier moves, but they get some of those too and they are still bored! And so the cycle continues until the penny drops;… the best and most enjoyable social dancing is not about moves at all, it is about creating and adapting movement to music with your partner!
If there is too much focus on moves it can limit the fun factor for you and your partner and hamper improvement. Whilst beginners need a moves framework, too much focus on moves for more experienced dancers tends to get you in your head too much, rather than in the moment.
Leading simple moves well and adapting to the music with your partner opens up a world of organic fun where no two songs ever have to be the same, so boredom is much less likely to occur.
‘I’m not getting anything from classes’
This is another false belief that can come into play if we feel we aren’t progressing. I have been dancing for 18 years and teaching for 14 of those. I have probably done more workshops and private lessons than most in our community. I know I can still learn something from any class I take, even beginners!
If you are not sure how you can develop from basic classes please ask. No student is beyond learning in class. It’s more about mindset and/or not reaching the conscious incompetence stage of your learning journey. In other words not knowing what opportunities you have to improve.
The world is as we see it from our own eyes. If you are feeling bored in dancing, then thats your reality. Boredom in dance is like getting bored in life, instead of blaming something out there, check your mind set, look honestly within and ask yourself what you can do to be less bored with yourself? Are you doing all you can to grow? Perhaps take a private lesson, book a workshops weekend, practice with a friend, or solo?
Shifting focus can help too. Once we open our mind and consider what we can each do to enhance the experience of others things change. Thinking what one can give rather than what one can get, can create a different type of satisfaction.
Your impact on your community
Walking around saying ‘I’m bored’ does not enhance the experience of others, nor will it help you improve your enjoyment level, unless you take action. If you say you are bored you will be more likely to stay bored! This can negatively impact on what should be a positive life enhancing escape for you and those around you.
We have a wealth of experience in our team and they love to help. It is our responsibility to help you maximise your learning and enjoyment. Whatever you are going through our experienced team members can probably relate one way or the other! Let us help support you! No doubt we can give you some valuable ideas to break to the next level of satisfaction and fun. Stay solution focussed and draw on the many resources within the team and elsewhere.
External locus of control
It is so easy to blame others, or other external factors when things aren’t going well in our own life, we all do it at times. This is the same in dance. When you are having a bad dance night/week/month, I encourage you to have an honest evaluation on your own dancing journey, to show humility and shift your perspective- this can do wonders! Is there anything you can do to change it? If you don’t know how, again just ask.
Whilst dancing isn’t a forever thing for some, it can be an incredibly satisfying life long journey if you choose it to be. Please feel free to contact me with any questions. I am happy to help you with ideas around; how you can break the boredom mind-set, how you can get the most out of group classes or workshops, how you can stay motivated and in turn continue to grow in dance and enjoy the journey. As we improve we enjoy the dance much more on average and we help grow the community as there is a flow on effect.
If anyone you know is struggling, please give them a word of encouragement, and suggest they talk to a senior teacher. It is all too easy to jump on the bandwagon if we are having a bad day too or if we are in a bad dance place ourself. Be that person who rises above negativity, while still supporting your friends. By all means empathise and validate someone’s feelings, but let’s support them in a positive proactive, solution-focussed way too.
Ups and down in life and dance are normal, remember we have a choice with how we react to those times and how we influence others. That choice will have a massive flow on effect on those around us. Choose wisely and use the great resources we have within our team.
Let’s maximise our dance journey satisfaction!